Consistency Is The Key!
That 95% (or more) of children who are adopted thrive in an atmosphere where 'consistency' is incorporated in to their lifestyle?
Most adopted children, in their mind, need to know that there is a routine or something familiar that happens in their life on a daily basis. Consistency in routine, in their environment, in the people who interact with them all play a big role in how they interact in their environment and with their adopted family. Why is there a need for consistency and why is it so important?
The need is for this reason. Most adopted children started off being placed in different foster homes, their environment with their biological parents was not consistent and things there were very unsure. After being 'passed around' as it is sometimes referred to, at some point the adopted child wants to feel secure and they look for that in the small things. They want to know that the same people that are in their lives right now, are there to stay and are safe people. They want to know that what happens today, will happen tomorrow and in the days ahead. When everything doesn't stay the same, it causes them to react and in most cases over react because things are changing once again. They no longer feel safe or they don't feel like things in their life are not permanent or secure. Security plays a big factor in adoption but I'll address that later and separately.
Do you have experience with this issue? Or do you have advice about how to be consistent?
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~The Adopted Child